Loneliness is a feeling of sadness, isolation and separation. It’s like you are at a different place; so alone and alienated from everyone else. It seems like nobody cares about your existence.
When the lonely feeling and emptiness become so overwhelming, it can lead to depression and affect your physical and mental health.
Some of the common causes of loneliness are …
If you have lost someone through death, divorce or a break up and are still grieving, you will most likely feel sad and lonely. Feeling lonely in marriage is also common when there is no longer any communication or intimacy.
Suffering from a mood disorder is also one of the causes of loneliness. Other reasons for feeling lonely include working from home all alone, experiencing the empty nest syndrome and having low self-esteem or self-worth.
9 Ways to Help You Overcome Loneliness.
1. Connect with People
Go out and meet people. Join outdoor pursuits or group activities or volunteer to do something.
Do things together with your family members and friends such as gift shopping, dancing, exercising or just talking.
If you are jobless, get a job so that you can make friends and spend time with people. If you work from home, change your working environment once in a while.
2. Learn a New Skill or Further Your Education
Learning opens your mind to something new and different. It also stimulates your brain cells and keeps you engrossed.
Going back to school as an adult has several benefits such as the opportunity to make new friends. It also increases your chances for career advancement.
3. Get a Hobby
There are numerous stimulating things that you can do to divert your mind from feeling alone and lonely. Find a pleasurable hobby such as gardening or jewelry making.
One of the things that you can do is to use your working or life experiences to good use by teaching or sharing them with others on a website or a blog.
4. Find Support
There are many support groups, forums or networks and chat rooms online to get help and talk. You can also choose to join support groups or organizations to socialize, offer your expertise and meet people.
5. Open Up
Open up and share your thoughts and feelings with others. It’s good to talk and let go off those bottled up emotions.
Sometimes people don’t approach you because you put up an unfriendly stance and are aloof. Smile and become friendlier and people will respond positively.
6. Learn to Enjoy Solitude
If you find yourself spending a lot of your time by yourself, learn to enjoy the solitude. Alone time is a good opportunity for self-discovery. Use you alone time to mediate, pray, contemplate and do creative things such as writing or painting.
7. Develop Confidence and Feeling of Self-Worth
When your self esteem is low, you will feel unworthy. This is maybe one of the reasons why you spend too much time sitting alone at home watching television, surfing the internet or sleeping instead of being in the presence of others.
The obvious solution is to build your feelings of self-worth and confidence.
8. Release the Suppressed Emotions
There is something inside you that is making you feel so lonely and isolated. Release whatever the emotion is.
You can do it through self-reflection, journal writing, and emotional freedom technique.
9. See a Therapist
If you have been diagnosed with a mood or depressive disorder or have suicidal thoughts, see a therapist or get professional help.
There is so much in you that you are holding back. Go out and connect with people.
You can start with giving a smile at someone. You will receive the same in return.