Self-doubt stems from negative inner voices in your head. These voices are in the form of negative self-talk such as “I can’t do it” and criticisms that you’ve heard and believed like “You can’t do it.”
Self-doubt causes procrastination, lack of self-confidence and distrust. You don’t believe in yourself and your capabilities.
Try out these suggestions to help you overcome the feeling of uncertainty and to start believing in yourself.
8 Tips for Overcoming Self-Doubt.
1. Acknowledge and Accept It.
Admit that you are afraid and don’t have faith in yourself. You might be afraid of failing, of being humiliated or ridiculed.
By acknowledging that you doubt yourself, you can focus on the real issue instead of looking for something or someone to blame.
2. Listen to Your Inner Voices
One of the ways to hear what you are saying to yourself is to write your thoughts.
Let’s just say you want to lose weight and burn the extra calories. Write this statement on a piece of paper.
I want to lose weight.
List down everything that comes out of your mind. Don’t sensor anything.
The first few thoughts are the obvious and familiar. As you push yourself to write, you’ll find that there are a few core beliefs that are causing you to doubt yourself.
Your list may include statements such as…
i. I can’t do it because I’ve tried it before and I failed.
ii. It’s in my genes. My mother was also overweight and so was my grandmother.
iii. I am afraid to do it because they will laugh at me if I fail.
iv. My mother told me that it’s OK to be fat as long as I am happy.
v. What for? Nobody is going to like me anyway.
Once you have finished writing, look at your list. Do you notice that most of them are limiting beliefs?
3. Question and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs.
Based on the list, ask yourself questions such as:
i. Who said so?
ii. What makes me believe that this statement is true?
iii. What would happen if I continue to believe this statement?
iv. What if I don’t believe this statement any longer? How would I act?
v. What would it cost me in my relationships, my health and my finances if I don’t let go of these beliefs?
When you get an answer to a question, question the answers. Do this exercise until you feel that sticking to the existing beliefs will cause you so much pain.
4. Replace with Positive Affirmations.
When you have finished with the exercise to get rid of your limiting beliefs, write down positive statements such as:
i. I choose to love my body and treat it with total respect.
ii. I choose to develop realistic positive expectancy and attract successful outcome.
iii. I choose to make it easy for me to be confident.
iv. I choose to trust myself and know the right thing to say and do.
v. I choose to no longer carry the burden of the past with me.
5. Visualize a New Self-Image.
Speed up the process of developing a new image with visualization exercise. Before you start visualizing, imagine the person you want to become.
Put yourself in a relaxed state of body and mind by doing deep breathing exercise. Once you are relaxed, create the mental pictures and repeat the exercise every night and first thing in the morning when you wake up.
6. Set New Goals and Take Action.
Set a list of new goals. One of the best ways to fight your fears and to overcome self-doubt is to take consistent action.
Do the things you are afraid to do. Each action will produce result.
If you make a mistake, don’t personalize it. Say to yourself,
I choose to allow myself to make mistakes. But I am better than this. The next time I choose to be more efficient.
Reward yourself each time you accomplish a task, goal or anything that you have set out to do. Give yourself positive feedback and comments such as “Yes, I did it” or Yes, I can do it.”
7. Invest Your Time to Learn More About Yourself.
Keep a journal and update it daily. Write down how you handled situations.
Be aware of what you are telling yourself. Take note also of the things you said to yourself silently or out loud to fight your fear, insecurity and doubt.
Notice how many times you condemn or criticize yourself in a day. Stop those negative self-inner voice each time they appear.
Take note also of criticisms you receive from other people. If a certain person keeps belittling you, distance yourself.
. 8 Feed Your Mind with Positive Input.
Guard your mind from taking in negative elements. Feed it with positive information. Read inspirational and motivational books, articles and stories.
Connect with people who are confident and supportive. Emulate their positive traits.
It takes time and persistence to overcome self-doubt especially if you have always felt incapable and inadequate.
But you can do it. You must want to change and become a better you.
By taking small steps consistently, you will improve yourself.