It is necessary to build self-confidence because it is one of the requirements for success. When you feel confident, you will be able to take action despite self-doubt and fear.
Self-confidence is the assured feeling that you are able to perform a particular task.
You probably feel confident in one area of your life but doubt your capabilities in others. Because you don’t feel confident, you hold yourself back.
Here are 11 Ways to Build Self-Confidence
1. Believe in Yourself
When you start believing that you are a capable person, you are not afraid to try and to take the leap. You will take action in spite of your lack of knowledge or experience because you believe you can learn.
This self-belief enables you to adapt to new situations or environment.
To be able to believe in your capabilities, you must be aware of your self-talk and limiting beliefs. When you are aware, you can question their validity and challenge them, one by one.
You also got to be mindful of your reactions and actions. This means noticing why you behave in a certain manner and determining if it helps you lower or increase your confidence level.
2. Find Out What It is that is Stopping You
Again, it comes back to recognizing the negative self-talk. Your thoughts are responsible for the fears and self-doubt. To know what you have been telling yourself, dump them on paper.
Write down what you are thinking whenever you want to start something new or different. You will gain clarity. You will face the truth. And this knowledge will help you differentiate whether they are false beliefs or real fears.
The limiting beliefs were formed from some painful past experiences and people’s opinions. Your task here is to do what you can to correct things that are within your control and to let go those that cannot be changed.
3. Take Action In Spite of Your Doubts and Fears
Develop the courage to act despite your fears. Whatever your goal is, all it takes is to do one simple thing. And then another. Bit by bit, you overcome your doubts. And if you continue, you start building momentum.
When you succeed at a small attempt, your confidence will slightly increase. Set another small goal and go for it. The next success will again increase your confidence.
Repeat the process. Eventually, you will develop a considerable amount of confidence.
And when you have developed a high level of confidence, you will feel motivated to try bigger things and take more risks.
4. Engage in Deliberate Practice
Practice, practice, and practice some more.
It takes a lot of time and effort to succeed. Without commitment, you cannot make progress. Make an attempt to improve by 1% each day. You will feel good about yourself.
It would really help if you can get feedback so that you can make corrective actions along the way.
5. Be Willing To Learn from Mistakes
Usually it will take several attempts to get things right. In between it, you will make mistakes. Don’t allow mistakes to stop you from trying again.
Use them as lessons. It is one of the best ways to learn what works and what doesn’t.
Learn from other people’s mistakes too. Find out about them from books and articles. You can avoid going through the same route. It will speed up your education and help you reach your goal faster and with fewer mistakes.
6. Develop Curiosity and Be Willing to Learn
You cannot do something if you don’t know anything about it or have limited knowledge. Your lack of experience is another reason for the lack of confidence. These two factors will hinder your growth and the ability to succeed.
So be willing to learn and to experience things. You can start by developing a curious mind. Be inquisitive.
When something attracts your attention, read more about it. Ask questions from others to find out more.
Try your hand at it. Give yourself time and put in the efforts to see if you like it. If you do, continue. If you don’t, try something else. You would already gain additional knowledge, skills and experiences.
It also helps you discover your passion.
7. Be Around Supportive People
Can you imagine what it is like to be around negative and insecure people? When you tell them your intention to try something, they will tell you why it won’t work. It isn’t helpful at all.
You don’t need these people around you. They’ll nudge you to stay mediocre and in your comfort zone.
So, go and look for people who are confident and believe in possibilities. If you can’t find them among your circle of friends, make new social connections. Go find them where they usually congregate. You can also look online for the group of people you want to connect with.
Take care of your health and hygiene. You can’t do much if you are sick and has no energy. And you won’t be able to socialize well if you neglect your hygiene. Social connection is important to your success.
So eat healthy foods and abide by healthy eating habits. Maintain your weight at a healthy level.
Make sure to exercise regularly. It keeps you healthy and fit. It helps you manage stress and keeps you positive and happy.
Make time relaxation. Learn to relax your body and mind with meditation, prayer, or any form of mind-body relaxation techniques.
Allocate time for self-reflection. Use a journal to record your thoughts. It is also a great way to measure your activities and progress which relate to your confidence.
9. Develop a Sense of Urgency
Sometimes, you may take your own time to work towards your goal because there is no sense of urgency. If you think about it, weren’t there times when you were able to push through fear and self-doubt because you had a deadline?
So set your goal and create a sense of urgency. Be hard on yourself. It also helps you overcome procrastination.
10. Welcome Challenges
Don’t be afraid of challenges. Welcome them. Use them to make you move out of your comfort zone.
You grow each time you overcome challenges and adversities. Your self-confidence and self-esteem will rise.
Whenever fear arises, recall your past successes. Make a list of the things you have accomplished. Remind yourself that you were a beginner, with little knowledge, skill and experience, when you got started. These kind of reminders will inspire you to move and take action.
11. Act As If
The great philosopher and psychologist, William James, introduced the “act as if” idea more than a hundred years ago.
What you need to do is to adopt the manner, posture, facial expressions, and pace of a person who is already confident.
If you don’t know how to act like one, emulate someone who has the qualities. Or you can head over to YouTube and watch the behavior and mannerism of a person who acts confidently. Act the way the person does.
You, like everyone else, has tremendous potential. You can succeed and become a confident person by making a decision to do so.
Sitting and waiting for things to happen will not bring anything fruitful. Work on building your self-confidence, one step at a time.
You have a lot to gain. So why not put in the efforts.